Sign 

1

Child leads the way with inappropriate behavior and parent regularly responds reactively. 

2

Attention is received by negative behaviors.  Once again child is stimulus and parent is response for majority of the time. 

3

Child holds parent hostage by threatening to harm themselves if parent doesn’t do what they want.

4

Child pouts for attention.

5

Parent ineffectively responds with anger rather than strength regularly - child role models and becomes a reactive person with an anger management problem.

6

Anxious child learns to run away from challenges rather than confidently face them.

7

Anxious or depressed child leads the way from their fearful perspective.  Parent merely coddles fears and other negative expressions rather than role model or lead away from these states to one more constructive. 

8

Negative atmosphere permeates the whole family regularly. 

9

Single mothers become dominated by their sons while the child fights for and wins the inappropriate upper hand in the hierarchy. 

10

Disrespectful child terrorizes the whole family, affecting the well psychological well being of the other children in the family. 

11

Scared anxious child continues down that road due to no parental direction there to lead them out of the dark. 

12

Depressed child can’t find his or her way out of their sadness because parents don’t know way out themselves. 

13

Child with ADHD can’t learn the organizational skills that are so vital to his or her overcoming this disorder, because their parent or parents have not learned organizational skills (leadership skills) themselves. 

14

Severely disorganized parent role models and actually teaches their child to be equally disorganized.

15

Chaotic environment at home leads to homework problems avoidance and school failure.

16

Parents lose positive influence of their children to the many negative influences in society.

17

Children fail in so many areas of their life that they are attracted to the “lowest common denominator” in the environment…trouble makers.

18

Children slowly but surely drift closer and closer to chaotic, anxious and “lost lives.”

19

The constant corrections and veiled sarcasm that result from the attempt to lead after the damage is done, rather than before, creates the child that interprets advise as criticism, thereby avoiding it at all cost.

20

 Because the habits and techniques of organization were never taught, It becomes extremely difficult, even for professionals, to know if the child has a real learning disability or an exaggerated lack of structure.

21

Manipulation, rather than hard work becomes the child’s “style” of being in the world.